Simply, a belief is an idea or principle which we judge to be true.
This belief system of ours is what helps us interpret and understand the experiences we face in life and make some sense of it all.
Usually, once we have formed a belief, we will tend to stick to it for a long time and, sometimes they are so deeply rooted in us, that we go on with our lives without even being aware of them. So there they are, mostly unconsciously, working their magic on us like a spell.
And that's all good, if some of that beliefs were not making our lives a living hell. Too dramatic? You get the point.
The reality is that the way we think can, and will, affect positively or negatively the way we behave and, most importantly, the way we feel.
And, on the top of the list of The Most Negative Beliefs We Can Hold, ladies and gentleman, is:
"I'm not good enough"!
Oh, this nasty little bitch can do a lot of damage without even trying too much!
"I'm not capable."
"I don't deserve it."
"I'm to young or too old."
“I can’t pursue my dreams because I may fail.”
"I'm not smart enough."
"I suck at it."
These and, a lot more, other beliefs are just variations of that first one.
It is important to acknowledge that most of our beliefs are generalizations about our past, based on our interpretations of the painful and pleasurable experiences we've been through our lives.
And when we think something to be true we tend to find the evidence to corroborate that. Meaning: we often create the situations that will reinforce our beliefs. But don't get mad with yourself because of it, it is all done subconsciously.
With that said, I'm not devaluing the real traumatic experiences you may have had. They are part of your challenges, just understand that only you have the power over yourself. And it's not because something once was true that it's going to be true forever.
What I mean by this, is that, you are responsible for what you choose to believe, specially when those beliefs aren't really true.
You have the power to challenge, reframe and even change your beliefs.
If you know where it all started, great, work from there. But if you don't, don't let it stop you from wanting to change the beliefs that are not supporting and empowering you. Which will be subject for another post.
The reality (scientifically proven!) is that we all are truly unique and special.
For now I just ask you to honestly question this belief and the experiences you associate with it, because when you question them you no longer feel absolutely certain about them and only then you can be open to change what is no longer serving you.
"Is this really true?"
"What happened in my past that led me to think this way?"
"Can I reframe this belief to something less disempowering?"
"What am I afraid it may happen if I choose to not believe it?"